We are social antisocial

I know people talk about this all day and people ask you this questions all the time. But I think it is because we don’t ask this questions often enough. So place your hand on a hart and keep reading when you are already here.

How much time do we honestly spend on social media every day?

Do we have to spend that much time there?

I can just say from my own experience. I see myself being very addicted to social media, that’s why I have one day in a week without it (or at least I try). It is very hard because I see myself just holding my phone and pressing the icon Facebook, 9 Gag or Instagram. Just because I am bored. It is so automatic thing now. Before going to bed sometimes I read and sometimes I am just scrolling through Instagram. How healthy it is and how much doctors will send me emails and tell me I have a problem is a good question. But do I want to change anything?

Do I want to stop being in daily contact with my friends from the country I am originally from or from the friends I met during my travels. (I know you people we can write letter…whatevs).

Don’t I want to see how my friends are getting married and having babies? (Yeah maybe I don’t, but it’s there so I look at it and wish them well because that’s what kind people do, right?)

Is it OK to put your phone on a table when you are having dinner with someone?

Is it polite to answer on text while you are at the table with someone (if it is not necessary and it can wait for next 30 minutes)?

Now, when we are waiting at the doctor’s office or waiting for kids to come out of their after-school activities we are on our phones. We don’t talk to each other almost at all. It is scary.

I have very good friend (Naty), and she texted me this morning how our common friend (Ronald) asked why she liked one picture. It was profile picture of a person which Naty doesn’t t have very good relationship with and apparently it bothered Ronald. Yes the question is why is Ronald being nosy and why does he care about it. But for real what my question is not to Ronald but to all other people out there why do we care about other people liking stuff, why do we even see it?

Because nothing on internet is private anymore. You can hide most of the stuff, you can make sure you put approval on everything someone else tag you, but it will still be there. Hundreds of people see it and other hundreds make screenshots of it.

Is it safe? No. Very easy answer, but we like it. We live with it and we are nosy. We always look at other people without facebook like on strangers. What do they communicate through? How they know all the news? They know it from us who use social media or from other portals. I know most of my news from 9GAG and memes on internet (don’t judge me, everyone knows those information are so relevant).

So I just have a little advice to have open minds on Social Medias. Don’t put your nose to other people’s business and if you already do, just be quiet about it and consider it as your little guilty pleasure to stalk at people. From the other side of view, just don’t put there anything you would consider not OK in few years. Or few hours. Because people will stalk you.

Second advice would be: turn of sometimes. But for real. Not just Facebook and Instagram. From phone. It can be just half a day on beginning but then it can be day or three. I am talking like to drug addicts. (Disclaimer!!!!Declaimer: of course if you can, if it doesn’t put you, your family, your work or your health in danger. I know people who use their phones for healthy issues)

It is very nice feeling to be with your friends without your phone. On the end of the day it doesn’t matter how many people are following you and how many likes you got on your picture. It really shouldn’t be the reason why would you feel better or worse about yourself. What matters is, if the people are going to be there for you. And if you are going to be there for your “friends” when they will need help. It’s not the innocent like anymore. You or they will actually have to lift there bums from the couch put the phone away and carry the fridge on a second floor, because sometimes we can’t do things alone. Unless you are Chuck Norris. In that case. Hi Chuck welcome on the end of this amazing article. J

Lets have a better day today ♥

I decided to start writing while I was painting my nails and watching YouTube videos. Because I felt like friend stood me out for a day today. I felt like I was less important for that friend even I know I am very big part of my friend´s life.

What happened? I wanted to go for a lunch to this restaurant since like 3 days ago and my friend knew about it. Let’s call this friend Kim. Kim knew how badly I wanted it. But when I woke up today with a great mood and very happy to go for a lunch with Kim she said she can’t because she is already booked for today. (btw I love Kim and she knows it I just felt hurt). I felt really sad about it. I felt like „damn it Kim! You knew I wanted to go there! “. Then I watched this video and I found out something. I wasn’t sad anymore. I wasn’t upset anymore. I had very pretty nails because I just painted them and I have a whole day for myself.

This day I did a good amount of yoga when I woke up. I had great coffee and even better breakfast with great and loving people around me. Why should I be upset? It’s up to me how I feel. If I will be complaining about it and focus on the single bad moment happened in my day (besides getting nail polish all over my fingers) I wouldn’t make this a happy day. So right after I finished paining my nails I stood up and sit at my computer to write it down.

It is all my decision how I feel. Not long ago my friend told me „our decisions...that’s certainty we have” so I decided. It is to have a good day and complain much less. Because why should I? Do I want to make myself more miserable that the situation made me? Do I want to get into grief and feel bad and sad and smile less? Or do I want to have better days? See the rainy day as an opportunity to read and write inside. To get cozy under blankets and drink tea next to the fire. I know you might be thinking what a selfish friend I am that I got upset when someone made plans without me. That is not the point reader.

The point is…..

We all know that the only way to get out of feeling sad and angry is STOP FEELING SAD AND ANGRY. Maybe you say „but what if I stop being sad when someone makes me laugh“. Well here you have it. It is all you who is laughing it is your decision to find it funny and make that little exercise with your mouth. „But what If I am not angry only if the other person say sorry”.  Hmmm really? Do I have to say it? It is all your will to forgive them. No-one else will change your emotions, no one else will make you feel less sad and angry. It is all you. Your attitude towards live.

So let’s all have better days from now on. There is enough sadness in life. Bring the light to your day sweetheart. ♥